I think back to the time before I met M.
From time to time, my dad would ask me if I will be marrying a Chinese man in the future.
I would always answer, "No."
He would again ask me why not.
I'd reply with, "Because I am just not physically attracted to Chinese men or Asian men on a general basis."
Sidenote # 1 : I think that Asian men are handsome and cute...but I am not physically or romantically or sexually attracted to them.
Sidenote # 2 : I can remember a few times when I HAVE been smitten with Chinese guys -
-a few Chinese actors/singers
-actor Brandon Lee (who was half-Chinese)
-Michael from elementary/junior high/and high school. A friend of mine from elementary school tried to set us up together...but it never happened for whatever reason.
-Qi from high school. He was friendly and cute...but he had a girlfriend already. I recall one time when he was with her and he smiled and said hello to me. She didn't seem too pleased.
-Gilbert from high school. I never met him in person...just saw him around school and knew his name by asking. He was tall and very handsome...in a mischievous boyish way.
-a bunch of other random guys here and there.
So, the point is that there is no doubt that asian men can be incredibly cute...but well...it ends there really. They're cute. I admire them. But for me personally...it ends there. There is just no real passionate attraction.
My dad would be a bit frustrated with my preferences.
He would always say, "But then how am I going to talk to him if he isn't Chinese?"
I'd answer, "I dunno...English?"
Hehe.
He knows English a little.
Enough to have a decent conversation going.
But I know where he is coming from...
So...yes...I usually had crushes on Caucasian/White guys. Mad mad infatuations. They are so damn cute and sexy and scorching.
I told M. my preferences when we first met on the internet. He seemed amused but understood.
Not liking Asian guys in "that way" is just...well...like any other preference. For example....I have always liked tall men. It's sexy and I have so much more to hug and love you know? Giggles.I just like height. And I love blue and hazel-colored eyes. Anyway. It's not like these physical features are a requirement...hell no...I am not that shallow...but if you happened to be tall and have gorgeous eyes...it just makes it even sweeter. Sort of like whipped cream on top.
I wonder if I am going to be clobbered over my head for my personal opinions.
Please don't bonk me over my head...
By the way...M. is perfect...sandy brown hair, brown eyes with the slightest hint of hazel here and there, and tall...6 feet 2.
Sidenote # 3 : M.'s dad has blue eyes. I sometimes joke with M., saying that D. would have looked so killer-cool if he inherited those blue eyes. But then...I think...NAHHH...D. is simply an ANGEL with his medium brown eyes. He is such a handsome little fella. I love that kid.
Last thing...
M. is perfect in the MOST IMPORTANT way possible though...he is an awesome husband to me and father to D.
And.
He loves me.
And.
I love him.
We love each other.
We love our son.
And oh...yes...my dad likes him. My mom does too.
See??
It's what is INSIDE that counts.
I am just even luckier that my honey comes in such a GORGEOUS package.
Hehehe.